Hey there, Wonder Women! 🌸
You know that feeling when a tiny thing happens, and suddenly it feels like your whole life is crashing down in a dramatic slow-motion montage?
Maybe you sent an email and someone didn’t reply immediately, and now you’re wondering if they hate you, or if you’ve somehow ruined your entire career (I’ve been there, trust me). But here’s the real deal: What actually happens isn’t always what we think happens.
We all do it: we create these huge emotional stories in our minds that blow things way out of proportion.
But what if we told you those stories are mostly… optional?
Ever notice how your brain has this incredible ability to turn a minor event into a full-on Broadway production?
It’s like we’re all starring in our own soap opera, and every little thing becomes a huge deal. But when you take a step back and look at the actual event—without the emotional spin—it’s usually much more… meh.
For example, let’s say you’re at work, feeling all fired up as you pitch an idea that’s been brewing in your brain for days.
You put it out there, hoping to get that nod of approval from your boss. But instead of showering you with applause, they stay quiet, and someone else takes the credit. Cue the dramatic music.
Your mind immediately starts playing the “I’ll Never Get Ahead” montage, right? “I’ll be stuck in this job forever.
They don’t appreciate me. I am completely invisible.”
But… did that actually happen? Or did your brain just grab the situation and run with it, making it bigger than it needed to be?
Because, let’s be real: the event wasn’t all that dramatic. Someone else spoke up. Your boss stayed quiet.
And that’s it.
No cosmic conspiracy.
No major personal slight.
Just a moment, like so many others, that your mind decided to add layers to.
That’s all.
Sometimes, our brains love to create mysteries out of the most ordinary things.
We get this feeling that we’re living in a detective novel where everyone’s out to get us (even though they’re probably just trying to get to their next meeting on time).
Think about that time someone cut you off in traffic.
Your immediate thought was probably something along the lines of, “They are intentionally ruining my day! Who do they think they are?”
But the truth is—maybe they’re just distracted.
Or maybe their GPS is on the fritz. Either way, your emotional spin on the situation doesn’t match the reality of it.
So, next time your mind starts writing that story, maybe pause and ask yourself: “Is this really as dramatic as it feels, or am I just turning this into a soap opera?”
Spoiler alert: It’s almost always the latter.
And here’s where it gets juicy:
A lot of our stories are based on beliefs we have about others and the world around us.
This can be some scary stuff because it means we’re not just reacting to what’s happening in the moment—we’re reacting based on past experiences, assumptions, and, yes, those long-held beliefs about how the world works (or how we think it works).
For example, maybe you get an email from a colleague asking for last-minute changes to a project.
Your brain might immediately go to, “Oh no, I’m being set up to fail.
No one appreciates me.
This is just one more thing I have to fix.”
But what actually happened?
Someone asked for changes.
That’s it.
No hidden agenda.
No secret plot to undermine your genius.
But here’s the thing: Our beliefs about others often create a filter that distorts the situation.
You might believe that people at work are too busy to care about you or that others always take the credit for your ideas.
So when something happens—like someone else speaking up at the meeting—you automatically assume it’s an offense, even if that’s not what’s really going on.
Those beliefs are your own personal drama, not the reality of the situation. The world isn’t out to get you. (Sorry, no conspiracy here.)
This is where emotional clarity comes in handy. It’s like finding your car keys when they’re buried in your bag.
You don’t need to freak out because the keys are lost—you just need to sift through the clutter and realize that everything is okay.
That’s exactly how emotions work, too.
When you separate the event from the emotional story your brain is telling, you can navigate life with a little more ease.
But here’s the key: It’s okay to feel.
Emotions are real.
They’re our internal compass, pointing us to what matters.
But just because something feels true doesn’t mean it is.
You’re allowed to feel frustrated or disappointed.
You can be upset when something doesn’t go your way, and you don’t have to suppress that. But—and this is important—you don’t need to carry that emotional weight around all day, letting it color everything else.
Feel your feelings.
Let them pass through.
But then remind yourself that the storm is temporary.
The sun will come back out, and your perspective will shift again.
At the end of the day, remember: You’re the one holding the pen to your story. You get to decide how things unfold.
And while your emotions are a valuable part of you, they don’t need to control the plot.
You’re in charge.
So take a breath, separate the drama from the facts, and give yourself the freedom to navigate through life with clarity and confidence.